The Best Ways to Deal with Family

This past summer my parents spent a weekend with my boyfriend’s family. They had only met once before (last year at lunch) and we’ve been together for 5 years… so it could have been awkward, full of drama, or even like Meet the Fockers. Which means: I could have been a nervous wreck and I could have tried to control the situation.

However, in the spirit of letting go of expectations and control I went into the situation completely hands off and it was an amazing weekend. Seriously. It was beautiful; everyone got along, had a ton of fun, and I felt comfortable and relaxed the whole time. It went so well because I embraced this as an opportunity to ::

TRUST that everything would go well,

LET GO of my expectations and fears,

and LOVE those around me as they are, NO strings attached.

I thought of this story recently as I know the holidays are upon us, and along with garland, Christmas trees, and gifts come parties, festivities and gatherings – and many family gatherings can go hand and hand with stress, anxiety and even fear.

Concerns over your father’s hunting stories, political or religious differences, you’re mom’s weird laugh, past issues, differences of opinion, horrible stories of your Junior High years being shared over dinner… In your head you can create scenario after scenario of disaster, work yourself up into a frenzy of anxiety and stress, try to do everything in your power to make it perfect and then either melt down or freak out. Either way, it’s not pretty, effective, or useful. And it’s certainly no fun.

Thankfully this summer taught me that when you let go of control and walk into a situation with acceptance and trust the universe rewards you.

Yes, things might not go perfectly. It may rain the whole weekend, someone’s train could be delayed, or that story of gum getting stuck in your hair may be told BUT rather than resisting and holding onto what you hope to happen, you’ll roll with it. You’ll laugh when something goes wrong. You’ll go with the flow and enjoy the present moment, instead of being stuck on how you wish it was going.

Opening your heart and your mind creates opportunities where harmony, joy, and love can thrive.

Living with your hands clenched and your heart heavy only closes you off to those opportunities.

So, this holiday season, try walking into your next party or event with an open heart and mind… Try welcoming each celebration as a time to accept those around you, faults and all. Try letting go of the term “perfection”, and adopting fun, adventure, and flexibility in its place. Try tossing your expectations, fears, and limiting beliefs out the door, and embrace acceptance and mindfulness instead. Try letting your true authentic self shine, 100%. Try celebrating – not worrying. And I bet you’ll have more fun!

By: Erin Madore

Erin Madore is known for her radiant energy, bright smile and willingness to get real. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help other women though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. 

As a writer, life coach and wellness warrior Erin empowers and inspires others through her writing, e-books, workshops, Reiki and one-on-one sessions. Dedicated to helping people find clarity, direction and confidence Erin loves connecting with people on their journey to blissful well-being and happiness. She lives by the Helen Keller’s quote, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing” and encourages all of us to embrace all of life, every day.

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9 replies
  1. Marcel Spitz
    Marcel Spitz says:

    Great post and a great blog you have here. Very happy to have found it. Will keep coming back to read more of your awesome posts. Thank you for sharing. Happy New Year. Regards.


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