To say a lot is going on in my life right now is a huge understatement. Let’s see… On Friday, 4/5, I left my full-time HR job so I can focus on my writing, coaching and Reiki business. Then two days later my wonderful boyfriend of 5+ years proposed to me! On top of that, we’re moving from Boston to California at the end of May!
That means that I am currently ::: working on a couple eBooks, redesigning my site, launching a business, planning a wedding, and organizing a cross-country move. Phew, that’s even a lot to say out loud. Now, I know it’s only been a few days, but (at this time) I’m not feeling stressed, overwhelmed or full of anxiety – even though there is a lot to do, and a lot going on.
Instead, every moment, every breath, is full of hope, possibility, love and most of all trust. Trust that I’ve laid a foundation to help me get through all of these changes with grace. Trust that everything will work out. Trust that the universe has my best interests at heart. Trust that everything is part of the journey, the process, the experience of life.
I’m not in denial :: yes there is a lot to do – but I’m also not letting it take over my life. I’m not letting all of this change throw me off balance. I’m not letting the future over-run the present. I also realize that there will be moments where I feel overwhelmed and stressed-out but that’s natural and rather than fighting against it, I’m welcoming it ALL as part of the journey.
So rather than losing my Self in the chaos, or even welcoming chaos into my life, I’m enjoying and navigating all of these changes mindfully.
Here is how I’m running around with my head still attached and a smile on my face:
I’m living and experiencing, not just planning and scheduling.
My life is headed in a new direction and while I may be moving fast I’m not letting the scenery flash by me at lightening speed. Instead, I’m embracing each day, finding the beauty in each moment, savoring time with my loved ones, and generally moving slower. I’m intent on taking in the journey and the ride.
I’m trusting my instincts.
Like “they” say :: planning a wedding is as hard as you make it. Well, I think that goes for all of life actually. Since Josh and I have a lot to do within the next 8 weeks we’re not second-guessing ourselves or putting a ton of time into research and comparison. Instead, we’re figuring out what we need to know and making decisions that feel good to us. Decisions that feel right.
Marie Forleo has an incredible video on how you can tell if you’re following your gut and living in accordance with your core beliefs, values and desires. Check it out here. My biggest take-away :: when something feels “right” for me I’ll feel expansive, open and excited.
I’m relying on self-care and self-love.
Yoga. Running. Meditation. Reiki. Dance. These are all the ways I clear my head, create space in my soul, ground myself, and connect with my true authentic Self. During times of transition it’s easy to forget about self-care and fall back on bad habits, but when I immerse myself in those practices that nourish my mind, body, and soul, I find it easier to be mindful, to live boldly, to make decisions clearly, to move forward confidently. Through movement I find strength and stability.
I’m remembering to laugh, and to smile.
Those times when things don’t go right. When my schedule falls apart. When the day escapes me. Those are the moments are the times I could clench my hands and shake my fists at my really really long to do list. Instead I laugh. Out loud usually. Big belly laughs. And I smile at the situation, at the moment. It’s not because I’m denying myself the right to be frustrated, or the experience of feeling overwhelmed. It’s because I’m being honest with myself ::: while all of this matters, it doesn’t matter enough to ruin my day or my life.
Change can be overwhelming, frustrating, challenging, scary. That’s normal. But through mindfulness, honesty, and a good sense of humor I’m learning to let go of the fear and anxiety and embrace the waves and tides of change.
Moving, getting married, starting a new business – these are all things I want and have created for myself, so I’m not going to curse the change. Rather, I’m going to enjoy the actual moments of change.
How do you embrace change?
As a writer, life coach and Reiki Guide Erin is dedicated to supporting people in their journey to find clarity, direction and happiness. After moving past her own barriers to happiness she knew that she could help others though the same mindful yet bold approach she used to create a joyful, engaging life. Just recently she launched a video series: Creating Careers of Purpose that runs every Friday.
She believes in the importance of community, connection, compassion, and a good cup of coffee.