Be Real, Be Vulnerable & Be Accepting

Please stop trying to be perfect!

It is better to take action that is imperfect than to take no action at all.

As a business women it is so easy to remain completely stuck and unable to move ahead due to the fear of making a mistake or not being perfect. Well guess what? No person is perfect–it is unattainable. As a business women you are going to make mistakes and some of them may be huge.

But, you get up, dust off your pants and learn to move forward.

In fact, mistakes really can be your friend. How else are you going to become better at what you do? Learning from your mistakes enables you to move ahead. They also allow you to be real in the eyes of those that are watching–giving them permission to make mistakes too.

Does this mean when you make a mistake you avoid talking about it? Absolutely not! When something goes wrong, or not as planned, is the perfect time to build even a deeper relationship with you customers. Why? It is how you handle the situation that shows your true character.

Believe me when I tell you that I’m living proof that all will be okay when mistakes are made.

I’m a perfectionist at heart–about certain things anyway. Especially things that I feel will make me look like a fool if they are imperfect. Because of this, I’ve held myself back from growing into my fullest potential as a business women. I haven’t put myself out there the way that I know I can because of fearing potential mistakes.

Well the past few weeks everything changed. I decided that I was ready to launch my first product–you see my goal is not only to create content for businesses, but also to help them grow their own businesses. So in order to achieve that goal, I needed to reach a larger market–hence the birth of my first product.

As I was creating it, the content, launch, and marketing went very well. However, today was the opening day–and pretty much everything that could go wrong did. I put access to the product for the businesses that purchased it on our Facebook group. As I waited for all of the ‘thanks’ and ‘kudos’, the first message I received was that they couldn’t access the product page. Ugh!

Despite the initial glimpse of panic, I knew how I could fix this problem relatively easy. After it was fixed I made the announcement again that everything was up and running. And…. Yep, you guessed it, the next message said that they couldn’t access the audio.

Now this one sent me into little more of a panic. First off I wanted everything delivered by 7 AM. Second it was past 7 and time for me to take care of the kids, so I missed my deadline. Third, I wasn’t quite sure how I was going to fix this one.

Again, despite the initial panic, I was relatively calm. The group was fantastic and waited patiently for me to update them. At this point I accepted the fact that I am only human. Of course I apologized for the mistake and explained that it was my first product, asking them to hang on.

After the kids went on their way, I got busy and solved all of my issues in a short period of time. It really was no big deal, but for me it was a huge step forward.

Taking that imperfect action allowed me to grow by leaps and bounds.

Instead of doing nothing and being afraid of mistakes, I made them and learned a few things along the way.

What mistakes are you afraid of making? Are they holding you back? Comment below and let’s agree to be imperfect together!

12 replies
  1. jean
    jean says:

    Congratulations Gretchen! So awesome. We have been watching the product launch and are so excited for you in taking that step! Thanks for the great post and for sharing how scary it feels to take the step but how amazing it feels once you have taken it!

  2. Alexandra McAllister
    Alexandra McAllister says:

    Thanks so much for sharing, Gretchen. I can so relate with your story! I love your suggestion! “Instead of doing nothing and being afraid of mistakes, I made them and learned a few things along the way.” Excellent!

  3. Olga Hermans
    Olga Hermans says:

    I think we all struggle with the idea that we are not perfect, although our audience loves to see us as total humans with our imperfections. We also have to come to the point of accepting ourselves and move forward; thanks

  4. Erin
    Erin says:

    Love, love, love this!!! Once we start laughing when we fall over we’ll realize that the world doesn’t end when we make a little mistake or when we’re not perfect. There is freedom and possibility in the space that creates – how exciting! Great article 🙂

  5. Gladys Diaz
    Gladys Diaz says:

    Oh… Perfection… My nemesis! 😉 I’ve really been doing some inner work on how I speak to and think of myself, because I came to the conclusion that, if I’m going to continue making a difference in people’s lives as a relationship coach, the relationship I have with myself has to be at least 100x more loving, compassionate, and patient than I’m asking my clients to be with their dates, boyfriends, and husbands! 🙂 I found this quote the other day, and you post made me think of it:
    “We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks. That’s what connects us–that we’re all broken, all beautifully imperfect.” ~ Emilio Estevez
    Thanks for a great post!


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